Keep your eye on the prize!
Whatever you set your mind to, you can achieve!
Shut the fuck up!
Oops, that last one might have been me…but before I started studying the laws of attraction, such titbits of “advice” infuriated me. They make it sound so easy, don’t they? I can just sit around all day and, as far as I keep visualising success, I will become successful. Okay, nobody actually said that, but the problem lies in the lack of depth to such statements; they are the equivalent of the thirty-second blood, sweat and tears “training” montage in a hero-struggles-against-all-odds-to-become-champion-in-their-field movie.
What the movies do get right, however, is that the hero decides that they want something and then they go for it. Most importantly, they do not stop until they get it. They do whatever it takes and it seems that the only sustenance they need to carry them through every pitfall is that which they desire. And even if you prefer to derive your inspiration from real life, you would do well to listen to successful people. Because they are saying the same thing: they see what they want in their minds, they believe in it, they pursue it and they don’t stop until they have it.
If your vision is big enough (and it should be), it will be, or lead to your ideal life. It is your decision to shape your future and will lead to rewards that are worth so much more than money or status-although it will lead to an abundance of those, too!
So, read on for five ways having a vision can change your life for the better:
Vision gives you something to stay positive about
Life’s minor problems pale into insignificance when you have something big to look forward to. You become adept at apportioning adequate attention, if any, to issues that you may have dwelled on before, because most of your energy is now geared towards the realisation of your dreams. When you keep your vision in mind and continuously get excited about it, it is like a refreshing spritz of cooling mist on the prickly heat of everyday worries. If you are in a job you hate, you stay positive because you know that you are working towards better. You do not experience the despair of helplessness that feeling stuck in a particular job or situation brings. You are building your ideal life and merely tolerating everything else, and the sense of control you derive from that realisation is priceless. Living in and towards your purpose equips you with the mental and emotional strength to internalise only that which progresses you; problems won’t bow you and anything else is dismissed. I now think this way in every aspect of my life: Will this job leave me with sufficient energy to work towards being a bestselling author? Will this man support me in my dream of being a bestselling author, or is he likely to be a hindrance? Does this problem matter in the grand scheme of all I am going to achieve? You will find that it is not actually possible for worry and excitement to occupy your mind at the same time-and you will learn to always choose excitement about your vision.
Vision keeps you inspired
Cast your mind back to a time when you were laughing and bantering with your friends; punch-lines were thrown in thick and fast and you became tongue-tied trying to offer your own, all while thinking of something else to add to keep the laughter going. Before long, you were all a wheezing mess and were begging each other to stop. Or to a time when you were brainstorming ideas about something with other people; the note-taker barely able keep up, as ideas were bellowed with all the excitement and anticipation of game-show contestants who are tied in the final round. When you have a vision, this is your life every day. Ideas will present themselves to you even when you don’t expect it; I will even go as far as to say you will literally be bombarded with ideas-more than you know what to do with. Once you have decided to go for something, life will present you with all the possible ways of making it happen. How can I achieve my vision? will get you answers along the lines of: Try this; What about that? This could work; Why don’t you do that, this way? You will be on the lookout for opportunities and attempt to do things that would never have crossed your mind to do before.
Another thing is that you will be a more productive person. The last wisp of energy you usually convince yourself you are about to use up on the commute home after a long day at work now stretches and engorges into a sufficient amount to carry you well on into the early hours of the following day. I remember only getting four hours of sleep every night when I was trying to reach my deadline of submitting PHASES for a first edit before Christmas. I would finish work at 5pm and then stay in the office until 11pm; writing and printing and marking the manuscript before correcting and re-correcting. Far from being ratty or bedraggled, I had never felt happier or more refreshed. Finally, I was tired because of something that was worth it. Before then, I just about stayed awake to watch thirty minutes of my favourite shows before I fell asleep on my sofa. And weekends were for doing absolutely nothing (duh); thank God for progress!
Vision keeps you focused
There are so many things that can distract us and it is easy to get lost in the noise of our lives. Add social media to the mix and you can quickly find that you are racking up a lot of unproductive hours in a single day. Ever get the feeling that your days “carry” you? Your alarm means you have to get up; rent and the ilk mean you have to go to work; keeping up with whoever is the hottest thing/filling your cup with social tea means you spend at least thirty minutes scrolling down your Instagram feed or tapping through peoples’ “stories” on Snapchat. The days fly by and you are dismayed to admit that you really haven’t done that much.
Vision is the sat-nav that pulls you back on track, whatever road you are careering down. There is no mindlessness when you are striving for something, so, even if you take a little social media break, you will be conscious of the time you are spending unwisely. Vision forces you to be accountable to yourself; stumbling blocks (or writers’ block, as in my case) that would usually have had you throwing in the towel are now to be learned from and gotten over quickly. Energy is now being channelled into the attainment of your set goals. If you have taken the time to write down your SMART goals, then you will need to check them off when the deadline you have specified is upon you. Until you achieve the thing you want, “void time” will no longer be as comfortable or as enjoyable. It doesn’t mean that you won’t ever be able to have fun; you will just be more selective about what you choose to do…and how long for.
Vision makes you more attractive
There is something wildly attractive about someone with vision. The ability to see what you want, and then embark on the relentless pursuit of it is not a skill that everyone possesses. Vision inspires admiration because it speaks of passion, ambition and perseverance–factors which everyone responds positively to. Since PHASES went live, I have had so many messages from men congratulating me and asking to take me out. Men who, before, were content to just look and hit the “like” button every now and then. A lot of exes have also come out of the woodwork, expressing pride and (annoyingly) surprise that there’s more to me than tits and lipstick. One is even saying that he’s considering me for marriage…supposedly he didn’t before because he thought I was an “airhead”-bless him (it’s a “no” from me, btw). The fire in you awakens that in others; drive implies an abundance of libido, which is the driving force of all behaviour. Since libido also drives sexual energy, your ambition implies high sexual virility, which in turn attracts people to you.
You will also attract people in a non-sexual way. People really get behind passion, and you will be overwhelmed by how much support you receive. According to the laws of attraction, once you make a decision to achieve something, and believe it will happen, the universe conspires to bring it to you. You will literally attract everything you need! The moment I started writing PHASES, people wanted to help me, offering marketing tips, offering to organise a launch party, designing the cover for free, promoting PHASES to their followers for free and offering me general “keep going!” support. I cried all the time; I was that overwhelmed. Contrary to what “Love and Hip-Hop” and other such programmes have led us to believe, there are more “lovers” than “haters”; we are drawn towards people who are living their dream because it gives us hope that we can do the same.
Vision is ESSENTIAL to fruition
“Where there is no vision, the people perish.”
“Write the vision And make it plain.”
The Bible says it best when it comes to the importance of vision; you cannot go where you cannot see. As I mentioned earlier, when you feel like you are merely existing, it is because life is carrying you along; you are a ship adrift, and will stay floating aimlessly until you decide on a destination. Even if you are the type of person that sets goals and works hard to achieve them, if your goals are not geared towards a specific end, you will have confusion and frustration, and your results will reflect that.
Everything you see today began in someone’s mind. Napoleon Hill wrote, in his bestselling book on personal development, Think and Grow Rich: “All achievements, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea.” Surely this is enough to at least give it a shot. We all have ideas, but the difference between “us” and those who have made it is that they embarked on the process. The rest of us are so afraid of failing that we don’t even try. We allow ourselves to be weighed down by doubt, statistics and choosing to focus on those who failed. But we are missing the trick because we are looking at the tangible outcomes of chasing dreams, when in fact the rewards, the lessons and the beauty lie in the chase. Your life will be amazing because of what you achieve on the journey to your vision; what you get when you reach it will be the icing on the cake.
So, decide what you want to do. Dust the cobwebs off that instrument and set your sights on Carnegie Hall, but love the music and the fact that you’re becoming better every time; get back in the kitchen and start seeing your name above the door of that Michelin-starred restaurant, but celebrate every new fusion you create; master trading and start to plan exactly which private road you will be buying (you have a big family so you need all the houses on it, thank you very much), but delight also in your wit and success with bigger risks. I will write and write and write, and I have already planned the outfit I will wear on the launch party of my bestselling book. I will, however, celebrate the completion of this post like MGM have asked to buy the rights to turn it into a movie. I am sitting in a little office at my 9-5 job as I write this, but I have felt like a bestselling author ever since PHASES went live. And that’s what it’s all about.
XO, Kunmi Daniel